I Love You But... You Always Put Me Last - 9780757317903

As a marital therapist, Andrew Marshall spent almost thirty years helping couples resolve complex issues and arguments and then fall back in love again. In his first book, I Love You But I'm Not In Love with You, he shed light on a universal relationship problem: What happens when lust turns lukewarm?

In I Love You But You Always Put Me Last, Marshall addresses a pervasive problem plaguing modern parents: letting the children become the center of their universe. Here, Marshall shines a light on how this creates unhappy parents and fractious, desperate kids, and why adults need to put the focus back where it belongs--on the parents as people first, a couple second, and Mommy and Daddy third. The result? Kids who are less egocentric and more independent, and parents who work together and learn to actually like each other again. With insight, wit, and in-the-trenches examples, Marshall reveals: Why putting the children last will make them healthier as adults; how to fuel common interests outside of the kids' soccer games; why being a "good enough" parent is better than being perfect; how to reconnect with your spouse when the nest is empty; and how to keep the passion alive when your playlist includes Barney and Elmo.

While Marshall's strategies are unconventional, they work! He has helped hundreds of married couples restore the proper balance of priorities to keep the respect, joy, and love alive while raising wonderful children.